When Love Leads the Way

Sunday Rewind is a 5-day Devotional based on the weekly sermon at Resonate Community Church

February 22nd Sermon, Day 2

Paul had every right to command Philemon's obedience. As an apostle, he possessed the authority to demand action. Instead, he chose a different path - the way of love. This wasn't weakness; it was wisdom.

Paul understood that lasting change happens when people feel valued, not violated. When we need to address difficult situations with others, our first instinct might be to use whatever power or leverage we have. But Paul shows us that correction lands best when it's rooted in relationship. Before addressing the problem, Paul affirmed Philemon's faith and generosity. He built a foundation of encouragement first.

This approach doesn't guarantee the outcome we want, but it creates the best environment for hearts to be open to change. Love doesn't manipulate or coerce - it invites and appeals. When we lead with love, we reflect the heart of Christ who could have commanded our obedience but instead won our hearts.

Bible Verse

'Therefore, although in Christ I could be bold and order you to do what you ought to do, yet I prefer to appeal to you on the basis of love.' - Philemon 1:8-9

Reflection Question

In your current relationships, are you leading with authority and demands, or with love and encouragement?

Quote

Correction lands best when it's rooted in relationship. People are more open to change when they first feel valued.

Prayer

God, teach me to approach difficult conversations with love rather than force. Help me value people's hearts over getting my way.