Love Over Winning
Sunday Rewind is a 5-day Devotional based on the weekly sermon at Resonate Community Church
January 18th Sermon, Day 5
In our final day together, let's focus on what might be the most challenging shift of all: changing our goal from winning to loving.
We live in a culture obsessed with being right. Social media rewards the cleverest comeback, the most devastating argument, the perfect "mic drop" moment. But what if our goal in difficult conversations wasn't to win, but to love?
This changes everything. Instead of asking "How do I win this conversation?" we start asking "How do I love this particular person I'm engaging with?" Instead of seeing people as projects to be fixed or opponents to be defeated, we see them as unique individuals made in God's image.
When love becomes our goal, we listen differently. We speak differently. We care more about the person than about proving our point. We remember that the person across from us isn't our enemy—they're someone Jesus died for.
This doesn't mean we compromise on truth or avoid difficult topics. It means we approach these conversations with the same heart Jesus had—a heart that sees people as precious, not problems to be solved.
Jesus said something profound: "Whoever has been forgiven much loves much." When we remember how much grace God has shown us, it transforms how we extend grace to others. Our words become a reflection of the One we follow.
In a loud and angry world, gracious speech stands out. Your words matter, and they reflect the One you follow. Choose love over winning, and watch how God uses your conversations to draw people to Himself.
Bible Verse
'Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving. At the same time, pray also for us, that God may open to us a door for the word, to declare the mystery of Christ, on account of which I am in prison—that I may make it clear, which is how I ought to speak. Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time. Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.' - Colossians 4:2-6
Reflection Question
What would change in your most difficult relationships if you consistently chose love over being right?
Quote
Instead of asking, “How do I win this conversation? Grace asks, “How do I love this particular person who I'm engaging with?
Prayer
Lord, forgive me for the times I've cared more about winning than loving. Help me to see people the way You see them—as precious individuals worthy of grace. Transform my conversations so they reflect Your heart and draw others to You. Amen.
